I'm with all of you! Not doing in secret but my desire is secret! I work a physical job, not too out of shape but have laid the pounds on from stress. I'm not in the happiest of marriages but I need to make me happy. I have taken care of many people, raised 12 kids (2bio) and now have a husband that I don't know if he will change. This change for me is to better myself. I do not want to look or feel like this in 4 years. I will succeed. You can too! Support that's all we need.